Watching from the side, I saw her mouth move to form, “Oh my goodness, I am so sorry for saying that Mommy”. My friend had said something very nasty to her mom and her mom forgave her, but had she forgiven herself?  Years later she still manages to tell me the story and began to ask her about how she is feeling about it, because it seemed to me that she was holding on to guilt and shame. This incident lingering on for years like that is truly a sign of it, but sometimes we just overlook it as being normal. Heather Davis Nelson, the wonderful author of Un-ASHAMED:…